It has been many years since I have seen Paula but I will always remember her for her beautiful smile and personality and of course the wild hair. I am so sorry for your loss and my prayers go out to your family. – Rhonda Tittle Widener

For those of you planning on donating to The Shepherd's Chapel in Paula's name via their website, the correct spelling is www.shepherdschapel.com – Glenn Tarsi

John, Alex and Sarah,
We are so deeply sorry for your loss. Please know that you are in our thoughts and our prayers.
Mary Grace, John,
John and Phillip
Young – mary grace young & family

There's something about a Totani smile that will always warm your heart. Maria and entire family, just heard about the loss of Paula. My deepest sympathies go out to you. Donna Ruggiero – Donna Ruggiero

Paula's laughter and smile will always be with me. Always, Nettie – Nettie McCabe

Dear John, Alex, Sara and family, Our sincere sympathies to you all and may the Lord give you peace and strength through this difficult time. Your wife, and girls, your mother is a precious, beautiful person. Her smile is very contagious and will live forever within you. Love, James, Shelly, Cheyenne and James IV – Wright Family

I was so sad to hear about this, please know my prayers are with you and and Children John, it has been many many years since we have seen each other, I love you all and Pray that God will comfort you through this terrible loss, Love, Your Cousin, Enza and Mike – Enza Teresi Huff

Maria, I would like to express my deepest condolences on the loss of your sister. Phil Palmer – Phil Palmer

Part 1 of 2 Paula’s departure will surely create a vacuum that will challenge those who knew and loved her to fill. However, there is an old Gypsy saying, “You have not yet departed until all those who knew you have departed”. The memory of Paula’s serenity and kind demeanor will dwell in the minds and hearts of her kindred community until everyone collectively has crossed through the threshold of our seemingly separate existences of living here in this worldly realm and in the realm of beyond “here and now”. I too was once captivated by a vivacious, red-haired woman (Cory) who possessed features strikingly similar to Paula’s. Like Paula, she was called from her earthly domain by the same kind of affliction that overcame Paula. To make matters even more personally relevant, Paula was specifically afflicted with the very same illness that challenged me back in 1999. When I attempt to reconcile the incongruent reality of myself yet being alive, while Cory who died six years ago, and now Paula, who has passed on at the same age as Cory, I am reminded and even comforted by a poem authored by W.O. Abbott, which I recently shared with a friend who is a volunteer with hospice. “For years I never knew, if twilight was the end of day or beginning of night. Suddenly, one day, I understood it didn’t matter at all This is but a circle and there can be no beginning and no ending. – Jerry Brunetti

Our most sincere condolences to the DeGrazia family and the Totani family. I still remember when my sister Jeanne Ann would take Paula with us on family vacations and how much we loved her company. She was always smiling and so positive and happy. May God bless your families and especially her two beautiful girls. – Dan and Sherri Confalone

Dear Alex and Sarah, Your mother loved you so much. I admired her for so many reasons but most for her family values. She knew exactly how she would be raising you and followed that plan. Her goals are now your goals. May her love guide you through your life, her beautiful smile touch your hearts forever and when challenged remember to ask yourself "What would Mom want me to do?" She loved and taught you so well. My heart aches for what you are going through right now but my faith says that some day we will all know the answer to why life goes this way and we won't be disappointed. Love, Mrs. Whalen – Mrs. Whalen

My thoughts and prayers are with Paula's family. God bless – Kelly Luckey

John Alex and Sarah and the Totani family,we are so very sorry and deeply saddened by the loss of your beautiful wife, mother, daughter and sister. We knew Paula for a long time,from back to the start of Bella to now where our daughters have become friends and I had a chance to spend alot of fun times with Paula. She was such a beautiful warm loving person, we feel so blessed to have called her friend.Paula was a blessing to all who had a chance to know her. Please know we are here for your family, and if there is anything we can do for you please let us know, we love your beautiful girls ALex and Sarah,and we are here for anything they need.God Bless your family. Connie,Rob, Nicolette and Alex Herring – Connie Herring

My dear friend,I'll miss you and the times we spent sharing our parenting stories. Someday we will meet again and we will look down at our children and smile and laugh. My deepest sympathy to your family. Rest in peace my friend. – Charlene Trux

We got to know Paula when our daughter, Meghan would babysit for Alex. Her wild hair and beautiful smile will never be forgotten. Paula was able to touch so many lives. May you find comfort in the love of family and friends. – Terry & Dale Lieberman

I knew Paula many many years ago..she spent alot of good times with the "Domenico" bunch...she was a great person with a magnetic smile...and her own style. She in part inspired me to become a stylist myself..It has been a long time since then..but in hearing of her death I can remember her like it was yesterday. My prayers go out to all of her family and friends who are touched by her loss...God bless you all. – Lori (Domenico), Laubach

John, Alex and Sara know that we are thinking of you through this time and that we are here for you. Paula was a gift to all of us. We will never forget her infectious smile. It will be with us forever. We love you all very much. Uncle Tony, Giovanna, Marcella and Massimo – Tony, Giovanna, Marcella and Massimo Teresi

John, Alex, Sarah and families~ It has taken me almost two weeks to finally be able to read Paula's obituary... My heart has been so heavy and continues to feel this way every day. I cannot imagine what you are going through. No words can make it easier. Only memories of Paula's kindness, gentleness, warmness, compassion, and most of all FAITH, is what makes me see the good in this. She has touched my life like no other. She was never afraid to show her love for God. I am hoping a piece of Paula's heart will always be a part of mine now, so I can grow and learn from her. I see her smiling face where ever I go. She is truly an angel above us. Love all of you. Jeanne Ann – jeanne ann confalone

Dear John and Family~ We would like to extend our dearest and sincerest sympathy and love to all of you at this very difficult time. Please know that Paula will always be with you in your hearts. Her smile will shed sunshine on your lives as well as your in your hearts. She loved all of you too much and her love for all of you will be everlasting. Our thoughts and prayers are with you always~ – Betty & Kevin Hammerstone

We wanted to express our deepest sympathies to your family. We did not know Paula, but have heard much about her through our dear friend, Theresa. "There is comfort in friendship, hope in prayer, peace in love."
We are sharing in your sorrow with love and friendship. May the love of those around you help you through the days ahead. With Sincerest Sympathy, Armando and Rachel Nava – Armando and Rachel Nava

John--We were saddened to hear of the passing of your wife. Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. – Mike & Carol Schwar

My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. – Faith Fennimore

John-I am so very sorry for your loss, my condolences to you and your family at this time of sorrow. May GOD be wth you and your children. – Laurie Courter-Barton

The sacred passing of a beloved and gracious soul is a heavy cross to bear. Our deepest condolences to all those who love Paula and may they have her love returned to them with God's blessing. So sad to learn that Paula's body could not contain her brilliant Spirit any longer and that her Light has returned to Heaven. I never had the privilege of meeting Paula, but heard how wonderful it was to be near her through you, Theresa. You always spoke with high regard of Paula's graciousness and the loving bond that exists among her husband and two beautiful daughters. Dear God, may her loving energy and Your Grace find her family and friends and fill their bereaved hearts with warmth and eternal Hope. Respectfully... – Victoria Walsh

Part 2 of 2 This is how I came to know that birth and death are one. And it is neither the coming or going that is of consequence…… What is consequence is the BEAUTY that one gathers in the interlude called LIFE.” For sure, Paula had acquired and bestowed untold as well as measurable amounts of BEAUTY in her life. Her tirelessly devoted husband John, her sparkling young daughters, Alexandria and Sara are the obvious corporeal embodiment of that BEAUTY. Yet, in addition to her loving family of parents, siblings and close friends, all those who even once met this effervescent vessel of sweetness, kindness and authenticity would be forever affected, no matter the circumstances. It is thus no coincidence that Paula’s salon was aptly called “Bella”. Thank you Paula, for the Beauty you brought to us all, allowing us to gather what you created and selflessly gifted to us all, like a fragrant rose that perfumes our air or the morning dove’s song which fills our chamber. May we enrich our own lives and the lives of those we love with your gifts which we now understand to be everlasting. Godspeed to you on your new journey and may your twinkling eyes and star-lit smile be eternally accessible to those of us that cherish the kind of BEAUTY we need so much of. Love, Joy, Peace and Blessings to you, Bella. Jerry Brunetti – Jerry Brunetti

My deepest sympathy. My thoughts and prayers are with you. – Filipoo Giulio Teresi

I am so sorry to hear of Paula's death. I knew her as a client at Bella Hair Design and always thought she was such a beautiful person, inside and out. – Anne Kaye

To the DiGrazia family, We are so sorry for your loss. Our thoughts and prayers are with you at this difficult time. Lisa, Keith, and Ryan Fry – Lisa Fry

My heart just dropped reading about Paula, I will remember her great smile always I am so so sorry for your lost You are all in my thoughts – Anita Marie Fiore

I am hoping there is a better place without pain where you can continue to exist as that light of "it's all good" that you shone on so many people effortlessly as it was your nature. I know your family will miss you but I am confident that there is enough of your fire inside each and everyone of the lives that you have touched to allow you to live on here in our spirits until that day when we meet you on the other side of this life. – Nora Oconnell

Dear John, Alex, Sarah, Dr and Mrs Totani, Dominic, Theresa, Betsy, Maria, Kristan, and Louis, It is with a heavy heart that I sign this guest book. There are many words that come to mind when I think of Paula...but the one that stands out shining is SPECIAL. She was special to so many people. She loved her family like no other person I have ever met. John, she loved you so much. You were meant for one another. Alex and Sarah, Mommy was so proud of you. I see her in both of you. Keep her spirit girls..your life will be full of happiness if you do that. Dr and Mrs Totani, you did a wonderful job of raising your children because they all have that sense of God is first and family is second....but the two intertwine and that's is what has made all your children wonderful people. Her brothers and sisters and nieces and nephews were people she adored. She loved you all with all her heart. Paula was a true friend..so rare to find today. She was humble, generous, honest, and loving. The times we spent together were filled with laughter and fun and that is what I will carry with me in my heart. I feel blessed and honored to have had Paula as my friend. Dearest Paula, I know you are in a happy place smiling with the angels you so portrayed while here on this earth. I will miss you dear friend. Rest assured of my prayers for comfort and peace. With love, prayers, and respect, Caroline Giovannini – Caroline Giovannini

Alex, my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. May you find Peace knowing that your mom is no longer suffering. Rather, she is basking in the light of our Heavenly Father. Sincerely, Mrs. Spaide – Mrs. Spaide

So sorry for your loss! We will keep you in our prayers! – Nick Sisonick & Family

Dear Giovanni, Alex, Sarah and family, We are so sorry for your loss. Paula will be greatly missed and will be remembered for her beautiful smile and her vibrant, caring personality. You are all in our thoughts and prayers. With Deepest Sympathy. Brent, Tonya, Bailey, Tessa and Talya Brugler – Tonya Brugler

We just learned of Paula's passing and are shocked and stunned and so very very sad. She had contagious smile and amazing beauty inside and out. I cannot imagine your loss but I hope that the beautiful memories and tributes to Paula soften the saddness of her loss and fill you up in knowing that she was loved and special and appreciated and valued and she brought joy to so many every day. – John & Nicole Ronco

What if Paula truly was an angel? What if Paula was really not of this world? Paula never complained. She always smiled. She loved God. She brought everyone in her life closer to Him. She was always positive. She was always concerned. She was tolerant. She was an incredible wife and wonderful mother. She was an ideal daughter. She was a fantastic friend. She was radiant. She suffered yet never complained. She died with such Grace. What if she truly was an angel and not of this world? Glenn & Candie Tarsi – Glenn & Candie Tarsi

God gave us a Angel in human form to share precious moments with us. Anyone who had the opportunity to know Paula felt the Joy of her kind heart and effervescent personality. Paula's spirit will continue to live in our memories. Uncle Lou, Aunt Janet, Dominic, Theresa, Betsy, Maria, Kristan, Louis & the DiGrazia family, my thoughts and prayers are with you. Love, Colleen – Colleen O'Connell

John, Our deepest sympathies to you and your family during this very difficult time. May your faith and love in our lord bring you healing and peace. There are no words to help you now, only time will heal you. – Rich & Kim Yurkovitch

To the DiGrazia and Totani family. Words cannot express how sorry I am for your loss. Paula was a wonderful, warm person who always spoke of her family with love. Paula was my hairdresser for 25 years and I always looked forward to the hour we would spend talking about everything and anything. Her positive attitude was infectious. I will miss her dearly. Please know you are all in my thoughts and prayers. With deepest sympathy, Amy Smith – Amy Smith

My deepest sympathy to Paula's entire family. She was a wonderful person and will be greatly missed. – Erin Lisetski

Dr. and Mrs. Totani and Family, My deepest sympathy. My prayers are with you. No one but you knows the depth of your loss. There is little anyone can say at this time, but I would like to share a poem with you that helped me in a later stage of grief when I lost my husband. And if I go while you're still here... Know that I still live on Vibrating to a different measure Behind a thin veil you cannot see through. You will not see me So you must have faith. I wait the time when we can soar together again Both aware of each other. Until then, live your life to the fullest. And when you need me, Just whisper my name in your heart ..I will be there. – Gerri DeMilio

Dear John Alex and Sarah It has taken us a long time to be able to even grasp our thoughts. We can't imagine what you all must have just gone through. We even here have shed many tears with you and know that Paula will always be greatly missed. We can find peace in knowing her body is healed and she is sitting at the feet of Jesus with her beautiful smile waiting for your reunion someday. We pray the Lords strength will carry you through those rough times and picture him carrying you with one set of footprints in the sand. We loved Paula. You hold on tight to those wonderful memories of such a beautiful woman. Her smile, always a positive attitude, love for her family, her Christian encouragement to others, her fun personality just made you want to be around her, she was beautiful on the inside and out. What a blessed wife, mother and friend to so many around her. We will keep you and the girls in our prayers. Remember one day at a time. – Ken and Traci Lipkowitz

To all of Paula's family: Our hearts are saddened for your loss. A beautiful light has truly left this world. Even though we knew Paula for the short time our businesses were neighbors (we were at Sign of the Carpenter), her presence always lifted our spirits. A visit from her to our shop always made it a special day. Our thoughts and prayers are with you all. Mary Jane and Dick McAteer – Mary Jane and Dick McAteer

Dear Totani & DeGrazia families, I am so deeply sadden by Paula's passing. I am so happy that I had the opportunity to speak with her on several occasions while she was in the hospital. Even then, you could hear the smile in her voice, and her positive attitude yet acceptance of her situation. Paula was such a tremendous influence in my life, inside the workplace and out, and she added so much to it that she will always be remembered with grace, generosity, beaming of happiness and sincere concern for others. I feel a great sense of loss and I will miss the conversations that we had, the fun we had and just seeing that beautiful smile of hers that just warmed you up as soon as you walked through to door.
Mr. and Mrs. Totani, what a wonderful person you raised and John, Alex & Sarah how blessed you were to be her husband and daughters. May time help to heal the wound and may her beautiful memories comfort you at this time. If there is anything that I can do for any of you, please do not hesitate to contact me. I loved Paula very much and always will. Lisa Zemenak (Paula's former receptionist) – Lisa Zemenak

John, We are so sorry to hear about your loss. Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family during this difficult time. Sincerely, The Plimptons – Bob, Wanda, Amy, and Rob Plimpton